Kate Engler
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist / Owner

Kate Engler

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I help people deal with relationship issues in a productive and sustainable way. I take a relational approach to ALL of my work because, as humans, we are wired to connect with others. I find the things that bring clients into therapy are those that most deeply impact their interactions with the people closest to them.

For a really, really long time, I didn’t know that having relationship challenges was common. I assumed that my relationship was hard because there was something wrong with it and, more often than not, I assumed it was because there was something wrong with me. Because I was under the illusion that good relationships feel easy, I stayed silent about a lot of my struggles and it ate away at me for years.

Kate Engler in session with couple

Licenses and Certifications

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)
  • American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) Certified Sex Therapist (CST)
  • Certified Fair Play Method Facilitator
  • EMDR Trained Clinician

As you can imagine, as a “messed up” person in a marriage that often felt really tough, I never intended to be a couples therapist. However, when I went back to school to study counseling (with the intention of working in alternative medicine) I was blown away when I learned in that what I was experiencing in my marriage was not indicative of my failings as a human. In fact, it was “normal” stuff! I was floored and I was hooked. I dove headfirst into learning about relationships and switched my focus to couples. Along the way, I learned A TON about myself and my marriage, and it changed the entire way I viewed the world.

As I talked with my friends about what I was learning, I was struck by the fact that very few people had access to this type of information about relationships. As a result, they like me, were floundering around blaming themselves and their partners for the issues in their relationships. They were also doing this under cloak of darkness, not sharing with anyone for fear of being “found out” that their relationships weren’t perfect. Even in my own couples therapy experiences (and there were several), only once did someone ever acknowledge that this long-term relationship stuff is no joke. (Actually, she just said it can be really challenging, but that was my interpretation.)

Kate Engler

This all led me here.

The sole purpose of my work is to help people make sense of the things that cause them to feel lost and alone in relationships. Through my clinical work, blog, appearances, and writing. In each, I share stories, and research to help put you at ease and to know deep in your guts that yes, relationships ARE hard…but there’s hope.

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