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  • When Honesty Is Overrated in Relationships

    This article first appeared in Time

    From childhood, honesty is framed as a moral north star. Tell the truth. Don’t lie. Say what you mean, no matter the cost. But adult relationships quickly expose the limits of that lesson. Instead of building closeness, some truths erode it—especially when honesty is delivered without care, context, or concern for the person on the receiving end.

    By Kate Engler|Published On: March 11th, 2026|
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  • Is The Roommate Phase Just A Normal Part of Parenthood? A Therapist Weighs In

    This article first appeared in Scary Mommy

    The so-called "roommate phase" has become a fairly well-documented part of becoming a new parent. But knowing it existed didn't make it any less scary. After all, how would I know when it wasn't normal? How long was it supposed to last?

    By Kate Engler|Published On: October 21st, 2025|
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  • How to Make Friends With Other Couples

    This article first appeared in Self Magazine

    Having tight bonds with other couples can make your relationship stronger.  But it takes effort to find couples for you and your partner to connect with.

    By Kate Engler|Published On: October 21st, 2025|
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  • What’s Weaponized Incompetence and What Do I Do About It?

    This article first appeared in Wondermind

    Recently, there’s been a lot of buzz around the term weaponized incompetence. It’s the idea that people use “I’m not good at this” or “I can’t do this right” to get out of normal adult responsibilities they share with their partner.

    By Kate Engler|Published On: October 21st, 2025|
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  • People pleasing is blocking who you really are

    This article first appeared in The Midst

    Tired of putting others first? Learn how to stop being a people pleaser and start prioritizing yourself — in midlife and beyond.

    By Kate Engler|Published On: October 21st, 2025|
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  • Why So Many Older Couples Are Falling Victim to the Gray Divorce Phenomenon

    This article first appeared in VerywellMind

    In this article, Kendra Cherry MSEd, shares the phenomenon of the "gray divorce".  She explains what it is, why it's become so prevalent and what the contributing factors are.

    By Kate Engler|Published On: October 14th, 2025|
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  • Gen X Therapist Gives Guidance to Gen X Couples

    This article first appeared in The Midst

    In this article, Kate, a Gen X couples and sex therapist, argues that her “middle child” generation has had to navigate relationships without a clear rulebook amid shifting gender roles, 24/7 work expectations, and tech overload—leaving many women burned out and men isolated.

    By Kate Engler|Published On: October 2nd, 2025|
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  • When and Why to See a Couple’s Therapist With Kate Engler

    This article first appeared in the Wellness in Every Season Podcast

    On this podcast episode, Kate discusses when is the right time to see a couples therapist, the stages most relationships go through, and why empathy and differentiation matter in healthy relationship functioning. 

    By Kate Engler|Published On: January 23rd, 2024|
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  • Household Equity and Fair Play: Dismantling Stereotypes with Kate Engler

    This article first appeared in the Wellness in Every Season Podcast

    Kate discussed how equitable division of labor (or the lack thereof) impact relationship satisfaction.

    By Kate Engler|Published On: January 23rd, 2024|
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  • 7 signs your relationship is over according to relationship therapists

    This article first appeared in woman & home

    Kate helps answers the questions: What are signs your relationship could be over? Is it possible to save a relationship that seems to be failing?

    By Kate Engler|Published On: February 23rd, 2023|
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